Life, As It Is.

As summer turns to autumn and then to winter, my life turns from winter to spring.  And with spring comes cleaning.

This month marks my one-year SL-anniversary with my wife, Ella.  This month also marks my return to single life in RL.

Inworld, I doubt I could be much happier than I am.  Over the fourth wall, I am feeling … well, considerably happier than I’ve been in quite some time.  Ending a relationship is never easy or fun – but ideally, both parties will hopefully find happiness.  This seems to be the case for myself and my ex.  She has a new life with a charming new love in an exciting city.  She has the freedom to turn a longstanding dream into a career.  Her future is so bright, I have to wear shades even from halfway across the continent.

As for me, my life is very small right now – but that’s not a bad thing.  I need time to reconnect, to center, and to rediscover myself.  I need to dispose of the clutter and organize the rest.  I need to relearn how to take care of myself, to love the body I’ve been given, and make sure that I’m here for a long time.

I am in no rush to establish a new relationship in RL.  Rebounding hasn’t even crossed my mind.  I quite enjoy the peace and serenity of my own company.  I don’t feel incomplete at all.  My emotional needs are met – both in the quiet and solitude of my RL world, and the wonderful relationship I share inworld with the love of my Second Life – a relationship that occasionally jumps over the wall in the form of a card, or a “care package”.

I wish my RL-ex well.  We parted ways on good terms, we are still friends, and she sends me celebrity-sightings every few days.  There are no regrets, and that’s a good thing.

Life, as it is … is good.

Tags: breaking up, relationships, starting over